Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Embracing the “No”

I am continuing my journey to have the proper perspective, and the Lord seems to delight to show me example after example of how one little twist of my perspective can turn a situation around.

The example I am about to give seems extremely trivial, but the principle is the same.  Trust me when I say I have had to ‘embrace’ the many hard and gut wrenching “No’s” also.  Truth be told, I haven’t always fared that well.  It’s a process.

Brian and I were at a sale for our business and had purchased several things for a really good price.  All that was left that was drawing us were these 3 industrial carts.  They were an amazing price.  They would make our furniture storage and moving of it, so much easier.  I mean, way easier.  We waffled back and forth and decided to walk away, trusting that if they were for us they would be there the next day for less.  We just don’t have room in our operating budget to purchase things that simply make our life easier.  Unless we can turn a profit on it, we just need to wait.

I struggled the whole 24 hours to just trust God. I really, really wanted them.  I found myself having to take deep breaths to calm my tummy.  I would ask Brian if we should just call and get them.  (He is ridiculously good at waiting)  I couldn’t get them out of my mind, but I kept releasing it to God

I would say, ‘if these are not from You, I don’t want them.’  But I really wanted them.  Seems trivial, I know.

Here’s the deal. Do I really want something that is not from His hand?  I think of the Israelites, He gave them their request but sent leanness into their soulsWhat if the “No” is really a gift?  My almighty Father knows all, the beginning from the end.  Can I trust Him to only give me what is best for me and to bring Him the most glory?

I think of all the “No’s” that seemed so hard.  Sometimes cruel.  Looking back I now see the picture just a little bit clearer.  I would not be who I am today without those ‘No’s’.  I would not have the testimony I do.  I would not have the heart I do for those who are hurting.  I suspect I would be a shallow, know-it-all little brat!

The ‘No’ to keeping those babies we lost to miscarriage has caused me to trust Him in ways I never had before.  They have given me such a deeper appreciation for the gift of children.  My heart is infinitely more sensitive to mamas who have lost babies.  And that love and grace I experienced that February afternoon in the hospital after losing our second baby at 17 weeks, incomparable!  I would do it again in a heartbeat to experience Him in that way.

The ‘No’ to years of a prodigal coming home . . .

The ‘No’ to relief from serious, heart-wrenching situations . . .

The ‘No’ to finding a church all those years . . .

The ‘No’ to financial freedom . . .

The ‘No’ to health for so long . . .

The ‘No’ to . . .

You fill in the blank.  Ladies, His ‘No’ just may be the best thing for us!  Untold treasures are being formed in us.  He knows what is best.  And I have found, that often times, the ‘No’ might just become a ‘yes’ some time later, maybe just in a different form.

What ‘No’ might you need to embrace to bring you peace right now?  I am not talking about just sitting back and taking a whippin’ from the enemy.  I am talking about submitting to your Father, humble yourself under His might hand that He may exalt you in due time, casting your care upon Him, because He cares for you.

Father, may we always and only seek Your will for our lives.  May we have grace to surrender all our desires to You and trust YOU to bring them about in YOUR timing.

Two hours after posting this, we found out that the carts were still available and we got them for $50 less than we were willing to pay!!! Amazing!!

5 comments:

Linda said...

Yes Michelle...Accepting the "No's" can be so hard. I have been there a few times in my life....wanting something soooo badly. Sometimes God was just wanting me to wait patiently on Him.

Sometimes He lets me have what I want, when I want it...but most of the time not. He knows so much better than I do, what is best for me! Just like we,(most of the time) know what is best for our children!

I think all of life is a learning process...and like the apostle Paul says....we need to be content in whatever state we are in. Whether we be abased or if we abound. We never quite "arrive"...but are always in the process of growing. Until we stand complete in Him one day!

Love, Linda

Composed By Grace said...

Yes, Michelle, we either trust God or we don't...in every area. Great Word from the Lord. ~ Ruth

cooperkelly4 said...

so simple, so hard sometimes, but this is where the rubber meets the road....to choose to trust even when it hurts. =0)

TammyLB said...

Thanks for this- it was very timely. Keep sharing your journey!

angela said...

I can relate in a lot of ways, but 2 things really stuck out... The know it all brat thing. Yes I feel like everything I have been through lately has softened me. Before the last couple years I was a very black and white, just do it kind of person, with little compassion for others. I now believe everything stronger than I did before, but I hurt with people now cuz I know it's not always easy. The other thing is you mentioned the no of finding a church. We go to church, but it's not a Home like we experienced for so many years and I have struggled with what is God doing in this and why we are drifting aimlessly... but God has used this to show me that I depended to heavily on what others thought of us and our walk with Jesus. I feel like He is doing something in this... I just want to be sure. Don't know if that makes sense.